Monday, April 1, 2019

"Keep your prayers to yourself"

   So it happened again. My son, who is in a wheelchair, and I had just finished attending an amazing concert from one of our favorite bands. Before leaving the venue, I ran to the bathroom while he waited for me and checked his phone. Up from behind him appeared a stranger who tapped him on the shoulder. She introduced herself and then proceeded to "pray" for him. Her prayers, not asked for, consisted of asking God to heal my son's "legs, heart, spirit and faith." As he sat there shocked that she had put her hand on his shoulder, she prayed that God would heal him and cause him to be able to get up and walk. Then as fast as she came, she was gone.

  There was no conversation. No pleasantries exchanged about the amazing concert we just experienced. No chance for my son to say anything. Just dash in---pray---and get out of there fast.

  This has happened to him time and time again. And each time it happens the same thing crosses my son's mind. "They dont think I am complete. They think that I dont measure up. They think because I am in a wheelchair, I need their prayers!"

  My son doesnt look at himself that way. He feels that God made him just perfectly and that there is no need for change. He is very confident in who he is and how his life is going. He feels strongly that his chair is NOT him.It is just the way he gets from point A to point B. Period.

  But some people dont view him that way. They feel sorry for him. Pity him. Want him to be whole! Who said being able to walk makes you whole? Who said not being able to walk makes you less of a person? Who ever said it was alright to go up to a complete stranger and start praying for them for something that they don't feel needs to change?!

  Lack of faith is sometimes brought up in their prayers. That if he only had the right kind of faith, he would be able to walk. Some people have even suggested he get up and walk after they had finished praying! How dare they make my son feel like he lacks faith and that is why he is in a chair! How dare they.

  Both my son and I are born again believers. We believe in the God of the Bible. We believe in miracles. But we also believe the verse that tells us we were "fearfully and wonderfully made". We were both made the way God wanted us to be. We are both His amazing creation. I'm not just a little bit more amazing because I can walk. We are BOTH amazing.

  So let me educated you a little. If you see someone in a wheelchair, or that has a different ability, don't assume they need you to pray that the different ability be taken away. Assume that they are ok without you making them feel less of a person, or in need of healing. Assume that they would like to meet you and talk about the concert, not be made to feel that they dont have enough faith and that you can help them out by sending up a prayer to God. God knows all about them. God knows all about my son.  Keep your prayers to yourself.

Friday, August 10, 2018

Auction

I'm going to an auction this weekend. I LOVE going to auctions. Some of my fondest memories growing up were tagging along with my parents early on a Saturday morning. They had seen a notice of a household or farm auction in the paper. They would get the address, and a tri-fold paper map  (no Google Maps back then). My dad would be the pilot and my mom the co-pilot. The thermos was filled with hot coffee made just the way my dad liked it.

We would make sure we had layers of warm clothes and hats and gloves because these auctions were always outside and almost always in the crisp cool fall of  small town Illinois. As we traveled over mostly gravel roads to find the farm or home that was listed in the auction add, we would be on the lookout for the small signs that would point us in the right direction. Sometimes the signs were hand painted "Auction" or "Sale". Sometimes the auctioneer, who did this as a weekend job to supplement his farmers income, would have a  sign with his name and phone number printed in red letters.

Most often than not, we arrived at a small farm house with a barn and maybe an outhouse. There were no animals in the pens or chickens pecking in the front yard. No dogs were lazily sleeping on the porch. The farm was quiet and empty. The owners had probably died, or had moved to a retirement home or in with an adult child. If they were still alive, they were usually there, walking around the tables set up in what was once their side yards or meadows. On the tables were rows and rows of memories. China that had been a wedding present. The large pan that cooked the Sunday roast. Chipped glasses. Tupperware. Curtains. Rugs. Lamps. Members from the Ladies Auxiliary from the local church,(usually the Methodists) had helped to set everything out for inspection.

The kitchen was usually bustling with the same ladies preparing lunch for the crowd. Hot dogs, hamburgers, chips, coffee.  The curtains still hung in the farm wife's kitchen. The linoleum floor in the kitchen was old and yellowed with age. The small downstairs bathroom was open for little girls like me to use.The porcelain fixtures were sometimes pink or turquoise but any hint of the woman who kept this bathroom spotless for all those years was gone..

Out in the meadow was where most of the men gravitated. Here were row upon  row of rusted farm equipment. Plows, hay balers, disks. Everything you would need to start a small Illinois farm 50 years ago. There would always be a huge barrel with shovels, rakes, hoes and clippers that had been used in the kitchen gardens and flower beds that were now grown over and forgotten.

The auctioneer would be seated on a huge wooden dias that he had made himself in his own barn. This gave him a better view of the crowd so as not to miss a bid. He usually had a mounted microphone with a static filled speaker next to him. Sometimes it worked. sometimes it didn't. If it didnt, then he would have to talk loudly enough to be heard by the crowd that was forming. Pickup trucks lined the gravel road leading up to the house, and if it was a particularly large auction, a field would be used for parking.

Most of the men wore well worn caps with the names John Deere or Caterpillar on them. They had mud splattered boots and overalls on to keep out the cold. The women, with  scarves on their heads to keep out the cold but most importantly to keep the curl in their hair, stood in groups of 2 or 3 and talked about how sad it was to see all this. "Such a nice family", "so sorry to hear that he had died" "did you hear the kids put her in a nursing home". Almost everyone there knew the family and wanted to be there.

And then the bidding would begin. Everything would be bid on. It would have been an insult to the family if something was not. And in less that 6 or so hours a lifetime of things that had brought joy or sorrow, riches or hardship,memories and tears was gone. Gone to live with other families that could use or collect them. The tables were packed away. The ladies sold that last hot dog. The auctioneer took down the signs, and it was done. It was almost like it had never happened. The farm would then be sold. Depending on the buyer, the barns may or may not see animals in the stalls again. The pink bathroom would be remodeled and the linoleum in the kitchen would be replaced.

Years after when you would drive by that farm, someone would always say, "Remember so and so who used to live there? Such a nice family. I miss seeing her out in her garden and him in the fields.""I don't know the new owners, do you?"

But the auction I am going to today is nothing like the ones of my childhood. Each week a huge warehouse on the south side of town is filled to the brim. Furniture, dishes, quilts, collectibles, junk. Rows and rows of red padded chairs are set up for the bidders.There is heat in the winter and cool air in the summer. Florescent lights shine overhead so you can clearly see what you are bidding on.  The auctioneer still sits on his dias---granted a much nicer one. He still has a mic that works~~ most of the time. But no one has any idea to whom all these things for auction once belong.

There are no memories of the people that ate off the china I just purchased, and no one recognizes any face in the box of photographs that just went for $5.Wooden chairs that rocked sick children in the night can't get a bid and are cast aside. Kerosine lamps that once lit the way to the barn on a cold winter night are bought by a Pintrester. Quilts made of feed sacks to keep a family warm are bought by someone who will cut them up into stuffed teddy bears.

Things change. Ways of doing things change. It is sad to see family memories sold to strangers. But I still love to go to auctions. I think about the people who once owned these possessions.I think about my parents who used to brave the wet and the cold to stand for hours at an auction with me by their side.I still use the china my mom bought at auction when I was a little girl. I remember her face as she was unpacking it and telling me about the family who had once owned the set of lovely plates with the little roses. Good memories. 

Thursday, August 9, 2018

Consistent with Life

Keeping up with writing a blog is alot of work. It takes time, dedication and something worthwhile to write about. I admire the daily bloggers that work at their craft. I would love to have that kind of dedication to something...anything!  I find my intentions pure from the start. My enthusiasm will be overflowing with a new idea or project. I get everything I need to get started, set aside time and lay it all out. And then it happens. Distractions  Discouragement. Life. And then it takes a very long time for me to get back around to that very same project once I stop.

I have taken classes in calligraphy, water coloring, quilting, writing. I have went to seminars on how to become a best selling author, how to become a better teacher and how to run your own small business. I have read books on organizing, decluttering, selling online and being a master gardener. I am in the middle of taking a correspondence course on how to be a florist and I can't quite seem to finish that last book and test. All of these areas interested me but somewhere along the line they have all lost my interest. 

It could be that I lost interest because I wasn't very good at any of the things I chose. Or that they took up much too much time or space that my house was not willing to give. But in reality, the real reason I haven't finished most of these projects was because I was inconsistent.

The only thing I seem to be consistent with is being inconsistent. That's not to say I don't finish projects. I have pieces of handwork framed in my office that I completed and even put in a county fair. My closet has been purged of all the clothes I haven't worn in the last 18 months and the bags were taken to Goodwill. (Thank you Hannah). My laundry is done and usually folded and put away in the same week. I am caught up with paying bills and reading for my bookclub. But I still would love to be more dedicated to writing, painting, creating. So here is the challenge I am making to myself.

This fall I am having back surgery that will lay me low for about 4 months. No bending or reaching. Not much driving. No carrying anything heavier that my purse. And I don't relish the idea of watching Netflix for 4 months or paging through endless home decorating magazines. So I am going to give myself a challenge. I am going to work on those photo albums that I am putting together for the kids. I am going to finish that piece of velvet handwork that is begging to be done. And I am going to be more consistent about writing in this blog. I have set up an office/art room right next to my bedroom where I hope to complete some of my many projects. And I want to be more purposeful in seeking out projects that will keep me interested and that I will enjoy.

4 months is a long time to be at home on the mend, but I think it will be a great time to get me on track to being consistent with my life. Encourage me. Bug me. Even nag me if you have to. I need all the help I can get.


Friday, January 8, 2016

Snowing and I am baking

Hello from a lovely snowy day in Colorado. It is a perfect day to be in the kitchen baking. I have classical music on, a candle burning and still in my jammies! I love to bake in my PJ's. I put the cute apron on that I got in England last year and make the biggest mess you have ever seen.

I dirty almost every dish and baking tool in my kitchen. Flour is always all over the floor and counters are sticky. And in awhile the yummy smells come out of the oven and I am transported back to my mom's kitchen. She also was a very messy baker. I always got the dish washing job after one of her baking sprees. I grew up really knowing how to wash dishes. But my mom wasnt a very patient teacher, so I never really learned to cook or bake from her. I just got to clean up!

But now that I am cooking through her recipe box, and I trying to learn to be as great of a cook as she was. Here are two of the recipes I would love to share with you today. Happy Baking!

Coffee Cake   9x11 pan      350 degrees  35 minutes

2 1/2 c flour
1 c brown sugar
3/4 c white sugar
1 t. cinnamon
1/2 t. salt
3/4 cup veg. oil

Mix well...save 1/2 c for topping

1t. baking soda
1t. baking powder
1 c buttermilk
1 egg
nuts  raisins  optional

Add to above and mix at med. speed

Sprinkle with topping before baking.



Fresh Apple Cake  9x11 pan  350 degrees  45 minutes

1/2 c butter
2 c sugar
2 eggs
2 c flour
1 t. baking soda
1/4 t salt
1 t cinnamon
1/2 t nutmeg
1 t vanilla
1c. chopped nuts
4 c. diced apples

Cream butter and sugar
Add eggs
Sift dry ingredients and add all together. Mix



Wednesday, January 6, 2016

Mom's Recipe Box

Happy 2016. I decided that my New Years Resolution this year was going to be cooking through my mom's recipe box that I inherited when she passed a few years ago. My mom was an AMAZING cook so this could only turn out good, right?

Well...the first recipe was for her amazing Apple Cake. The recipe was written in my handwriting and when I looked it over I remembered my mom asking me when I was in Jr. High to rewrite some of her recipes over in better handwriting than the original cards had been written. I got out my grandma's mixing bowl, my mom's recipe and all the ingredients that were on the list. Mixing, baking, tasting. YUCK! What was that strong chemical taste? This was a great delicious cake when my mom made it...what happened?

So in my Jr. High years I wasnt very precise with my copying skills and instead of 1/2 teaspoon of baking soda I had transcribed 2 teaspoons! Oh my...that does not taste so great when you take a big bite of it hot out of the oven. So into the trash that went and red pen was used to correct that error on the 3x5 card. Lesson learned.

Since that day I have made quite a few of her recipes and tonight is no exception. Chop Suey is on the menu. I will include her recent recipes with each of my blogs, and I hope you will try them out and let me know how you enjoyed them. Happy Cooking!

Millie's Recipes

Apple Cake

4 eggs                                                                    
2/3 cup veg. oil                                                  
3 cups sugar                                                          
2 t. vanilla                                                        
2 t. salt
1/2 t. baking soda
2 t cinnamon
4 cups flour

1cup walnut pieces
5 apples diced

Stir by hand first 8 ingredients
Add nuts and apples. Stir well.
Put in greased Bundt pan.
Bake 350 degrees for 1 hour


Apple Crisp

Peel and dice apples to fill a 6x10 inch greased baking dish
Mix-
1 c flour                                                                
1/2 t. cinnamon                                                    
1/2-1 cup sugar                                                    
1t. baking powder
1 t salt
1 egg
Mix and spread over apples.
Pour 1/3 c melted butter over all.
Bake 350 degrees for 30-40 minutes



Pineapple Pork Chops and Rice

6 thin pork chops(or chicken breasts)                                                
2 T. butter                                                              
1 can (8oz) crushed pineapple                                
1 cup of water or a little more if needed                
3/4 t salt                                                                  
1 1/2 cups Minute rice                                            
 Season and brown pork chops in butter
Add pineapple. Reduce heat : cover and simmer till tender.
Cook about 20 minutes. Move chops to one side:add water and salt.
Bring to a boil. Stir in rice. Cover and remove from heat. Let stand 5 minutes.                                                                              


Chop Suey

4 c pork cubes browned                                        
4 c diced celery                                                    
4 c diced onions                                                    
1-1 1/2 c water                                                  
                                                                           
Add all together and let simmer in pan with lid on.                                                                        
Add to skillet:
2 T Soy Sauce
1 T Molasses
1 can bean sprouts
1 can mushrooms
Mix together and heat through.                                                                            

                                                                                                                                                             .

Hope you enjoy. More recipes to follow as I test them out.



Friday, October 11, 2013

Grandma...there's alot of smoke...conclusion

It has been 4 months to the day that the massive fire roared through the Black Forest. My property looks almost back to normal. It is missing about 150 trees that are now cut and stacked for burning in our fireplace. My kitchen ceiling has been replaced. The burned grass has been replaced by green. And the charred  smell in the woods is fading.

My grandson said to me yesterday---"grandma, maybe there could be another fire so you could come stay with us again. I love it when you stay with us." So sweet. During the terrible destruction, memories were being made with him.

The forest is alive with chain saws and bulldozers and hammers. People are cleaning up their property, tearing down burned and building up new. Hearts that were heavy for so long seem to be lifted a little with each new construction site that pops up. Renewal and rebirth are here---very evident in our little community.

I can't say I am thankful for the fire that took so many homes from so many people that I know and love. But I am thankful that the human spirit is alive and well in the Black Forest to rebuild and go on.


Thursday, August 29, 2013

Grandma, there's alot of smoke...part 2.

  We evacuated that evening to my son's home that was nearby. From their development we could see the smoke billowing up from The Forest. I drove the car to a nearby hill behind the local high school and joined scores of other people just watching the fire. Many soon realized that while they were there out of curiosity, I was there because my home was probably in the path of the firestorm. So many people, total strangers offered help---a place to stay---a ride anywhere I needed to go---anything that they could do to be helpful.One woman came up to me with tears in her eyes and said she was sure my home would be safe. At that point I wasn't so sure.

  A few days went by of not knowing and still being unable to get any closer to our home. The news was constant....videos of homes in flames, reports of people and animals that did not escape. The roads were blocked with fire trucks, emergency vehicles and bulldozers.

  One morning a few days after the first reports of the fire, my daughter got a call from a friend of hers. He was a reporter for the local newspaper and he had somehow been allowed to go behind the police barricades to report the story. He called to tell her that he was standing in our yard, looking at our still-standing house....and he wanted to know if he should feed our chickens!!!!Our home was still standing!!! From the pictures that he sent us from his cell phone, it looked as if the forest around us had been burned, the grass was scorched but that the house was untouched! Our adult chickens were still alive and the 30 baby chicks in the incubator had all made it through untouched.

  He reported that there was a very large rabbit in a cage in our garage---with the door to the cage wide open. In our rush to evacuate we had no place for the farm animals and had to leave them behind. The rabbit's cage door had been left open so he could have a greater chance escaping. He was back in his cage with not a whisker singed.

  With this good news, we were hopeful again of seeing our home. But the news that night turned bad, with the wind shifting and the fire coming in many different directions. With this, came the pre-evacuation orders for my son's home---the one we were staying with!!! So once again we were packing up and waiting for the word to leave. It was a difficult time for all. Many more homes and out buildings were lost as this fire grew in intensity and strength. The smoke was incredible and the sight from nearby hilltops was unbelievable.

  Interestingly enough, the road to my garden center was never completely closed and the water and power were not turned off. So every day I would go to check on the place and to water. The helicopters loaded down with 500 gallons of water would be constantly flying overhead. Little did I know that one of those helicopters had dumped a bucket of water on my home to save it just a few days before.

  About 5 days after the fire started, we were allowed back to our homes for 15 minutes to retrieve medicine or pets that were left behind in the chaos of evacuating. We had a police escort to and from our homes, and as the police woman sat in her car, we were allowed to run inside. My daughter and I grabbed the 30 baby chicks and the rabbit. We were told that the SPCA had been feeding the adult hens in the outside pen, and that we couldn't take them. With the animals safely in our truck, we could take a minute to look around. The ground around the house was charred. There was smoke rising from piles of dead branches. The flames had come 18" from the foundation.

  As we drove back on the route to exit the Black Forest, we were struck with the complete devastation we saw. Homes gone. Forests burned to a crisp. A complete and utter silence over the entire area. The loss in some areas was complete. In other areas a home was untouched. A playground was still standing. A wooden cow lawn ornament stood guard over the property of her mistress, who would come home to find little else.

  Nine days after the beginning of the fire, we were allowed to return home. At first we were told we could stay only 3 hours, but then the all clear was given. The fire still raged east and north of us, but we were allowed to return home. As I went inside the house, I discovered that a portion of the kitchen ceiling had caved in. The water that was dropped on the roof to save it from catching fire had found an air vent. With all those gallons of water rushing in, the little air vent had bent and let the intruding water into the roof, which caused the ceiling to get wet and cave in. Other than that, and a little smoke smell in the basement, there was no damage whatsoever. We could see the burn marks just inches from the house, and the woods all around us had been affected. But the house was fine. Perfectly fine!

Continued----Part 3 to come.